Can You Revive Your Marriage - CPR For Marriage In Crisis

Stop the divorce
We are all familiar with the need for CPR (cardio pulmonary resuscitation) when our bodies are in a crisis mode, but have you ever thought about CPR for a marriage in crisis? Remember the feeling when you were first married? Everything was new and fresh; you probably felt as if that honeymoon feeling would last forever.

Then the daily grind starts getting to you and everything in the relationship seems to be a struggle. Too often, what begins in a couple’s life as the most wonderful thing that could possibly happen takes a downturn and seems to be on the brink of disintegrating. Dealing with a marriage when things are going bad is very difficult. If your marriage is at this stage and you don’t want it to end in divorce court, getting CPR will help you.

C is for Counseling- For a marriage in crisis getting marriage counseling is crucial. Counseling will help you not only in finding a resolution to your conflicts, but will help you and your spouse find ways to grow closer to each other and be better able to understand each other.
Marriage counseling will also help each of you find ways to express yourselves in ways that don’t seem to be attacking each other. You may learn early in counseling that one or both of you have issues that put your relationship in jeopardy. If this is the case, you will need to get therapy separately. Sometimes this is a bitter pill to swallow but putting your pride aside is a small price to pay if you want to save your marriage.

P is for Perspective- For a marriage in crisis getting a different viewpoint for what is happening is very helpful. A marriage counselor is valuable here because he/she is able to help you look at issues and situations from a different perspective.
From your viewpoint things may look very clear. But once you look at them from another angle they may not be as black and white. You will start understanding where your spouse is coming from and why your marriage is in crisis.

R is for Resolve- It doesn’t matter how much counseling you receive if you aren’t committed to using the information you have learned, your marriage will still be in crisis. The only way the damage that has occurred in your marriage will be repaired is if you act on that knowledge. No relationship is going to be without conflict. You just have to be committed to not let the conflict escalate to the point that the marriage is destroyed.

With the insight you gained in counseling, the willingness to look at the situation from a different perspective and the resolve to make things better, you can save your marriage. Just as CPR has to be administered to one whose body is in distress before it helps the person, CPR for a marriage also has to be used.
Before heading for the lawyer’s office get marriage CPR (Counseling, Perspective, Resolve). For more…